Positive Day

Choose Yourself Today So Tomorrow Feels Possible

• Daniel Malcolm

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We share simple, repeatable self‑love habits that turn stressful days into lighter ones: mindful pauses, nature walks, intentional meals, boundaries, decluttering, gratitude, and journaling. Stories, practical tips, and a reminder to go gently and start small anchor the journey.

• mindful micro‑stops and breath to reset
• morning runs, walks, and time in nature
• quiet reading and mindful, screen‑free eating
• saying no as energy management
• novelty through changed routes and mini escapes
• digital detox to clear mental noise
• nostalgia, photos, and memory for mood repair
• exercise as a daily 45‑minute reset
• legs‑up breathing for calm and circulation
• bathroom dance sessions for joy
• small home spa rituals to feel cared for
• decluttering space to free mental load
• scheduled one‑to‑one time with family and friends
• deep listening to reframe our own worries
• multi‑journal system for goals and gratitude
• social media breaks to build better habits
• compassionate consistency over perfection

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DANIEL MALCOLM
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Hello, hello, and welcome. Welcome again to Positive Day Podcast. Your host Daniel Malcolm. Thank you, thank you, and welcome, welcome. Please subscribe so you never miss an episode again. Please leave me or give me a review wherever you're listening to me on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify. Please share this with your friends and family. This is the only way I can grow and reach more audience, and I truly, truly appreciate that. Today we're gonna be talking about giving ourselves love. Do you know about me? Positive days about self-love, loving yourself, yourself first, give living your wealth, finding your wealth. And this topic has for the past week, it has drawn me to realize that I was sleeping through that self-care, self-love thing. And this is why this week we're talking, this episode is about self-love. Self-love is as important as self-care. Sometimes you have a long day, you had a stressful day, and you just need to recharge yourself, get yourself energized, get yourself reboost yourself. Um and those are some of the things that that I do to recharge myself having a long day, having a stressful day, going through something, something different, something that I feel like my energy is l is losing. And sometimes I just ask them you stop and smell the flower. You just throughout your day, you just stop, take a minute, second, and just breathe. Just look around you and just enjoy what is around you without thinking of anything, situation you're going through, kind of a day you're having. Just stop a second, a minute. Just listen to your breath. Um, just sit around you and just appreciate something around you. So I'm gonna start with this with a moment. I'm just gonna be sharing some tips with you on how I do it and how I just recharge myself. And this is one thing I do. I just stop throughout my day and just take a moment, appreciate what's around me. I don't care where I'm at, what this I'm in. I just stop and I just breath, listen to my breath three seconds, and just enjoy what's around me, what's happening around me. So some something I do on mornings that really, really help me is I love going for my morning runs. It's healthy, set your mind clear, even if you don't have to go for a run, but you could go for a morning walk. And I like running in nature. Sometimes it's I like running in the woods, in the forest, and I just like being there, just take you away from reality, from your stress, from what's the day is gonna be like, what's ahead of you for for for the day. And it's just like a way of being gratitude for what's happening around you. It's something else that I do a lot is like spend a lot of time with myself, a more a moment, like just read a book, just five ten minutes, just distract my myself with with with a book, distract myself with a quote of of of something. Distract myself by just sending a text message to a friend or someone say, Hey, thinking of you. Something I I do again is like e alone. Like I really, really enjoy liking and something I do sit and treat myself to myself, sit at the table, knife and fork, and just eat slowly, no self-all, no distraction, and just enjoy the food, get out the spices that's in it, just enjoying the food, enjoying and be gratitude that I have food and be be gratitude for what I'm eating and how I made it, and it's it's just so soothing, so so re so relaxing. Just be able to just sit and just enjoy food. And uh another thing that I do is like I give myself permission to say no. This is a subject I've had on one of my past episodes. Say no. I self uh just allow myself to say no, not no for the reasons for the wrong reasons, no, is this gonna work for me? Is this best for me? Is this gonna give me the energy that I need? Is this gonna boost me? Is this gonna I am I learning something from it? This is something that that I try. Something that that once in a while I do is um I plan an escape. I always change my routine of driving to work from work. I don't always drive the same place, especially when driving back from work. I usually take a new route, I take a new path, I just new drive back. Either I pass a different place just for me to feel like letting go of the day, what happened at work, the stress, detoxing myself, a new scenery. And I like driving back from the airport. Like I usually take the the back roads and through the airport and just enjoy the light. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to find a plane passing and just enjoying that, just pull me away from the day, distract me from the day, and and I really, really do enjoy that. It puts me in a different pro perspective, different thinking, a different feeling, and appreciating what's really around me. Something again that I really do is like I take a break from my phone, TV, just pull myself away from all of these things, and I draw myself into either a book and I just get up to sit in the backyard, listening to nothing, or just sitting there and remembering on the amazing thing God has done in my life in the past, the amazing thing someone has done for me. Just taking that moment that alone to just think of that, it's it's like recapping my life. Even thinking of the where I screwed up, where I made mistakes, where I say something to someone that I look back and I regret. But I go back into it and I reprocessing my my myself, thinking about the good, the way I places have been, um, things I've done. If I were to go back there, um what would I do differently? Probably you guys gonna know, I'll just spend like the time I spent with my mum, with my family. And something I really, really, really a couple of weeks ago I was doing that and something I I miss or something I as it was growing up as a child, like all my siblings would come home and would be washing our cars on a Sunday and my mom would cook and we all would be home washing our cars. It would be so loud, so so loud, so many of us. It'd be so loud. I go back and I wish I could get those times, but I can't get those times back. So appreciated that time when it was all loud and everybody watching the car and music, and it was just an amazing, amazing time. But at the moment I find it was noisy. But now that I look back, and those are things you can do, just go back into your past and the things that brings energy to you, something that brings life back to you, a photo that brings some to you. Look at those four photos because it it it brings smiles to you, it brings energy to you. It's a funny move movie, spend some you know do things to bring back life into you. Something that really, really you guys will know this about me is exercise. I go to the gym and I work out, put my music on and I just work out. I don't even speak to people. I say hi, hello. If I know you, you got me, I wave back at you. But at the gym, I just that focus on me. It's the only 45 minutes where I'm working on me and me. And after I speak to people, but at that time it's just fine, whatever form of exercise could be at home, it could be whatever, but just do a bit of exercise because those are the things that make the blood flow through you, just bring a smile to you, bring energy to you, something that you love, love, love, love. Some this thing that I read a couple of years ago, you know, and I've and I've been trying it. Um I get up on the morning and I just like, oh, I feel like today it's gonna be stressful, or I think I'm gonna have a stressful day. I usually lay down against the wall on my back and I put my legs up against the wall and I just count my breathing. This every time my mind wanders out, come back to my breathing. And you could check this out like sit laying on your back with your feet. It's good for your abs, it's good for your digestive system, it makes the blood flow in the opposite direction, especially for those that stand a long hours on your feet. This is really, really for a while. It just flows the blood back in the opposite direction. You have more blood flowing through your body, more energy, more oxygen flowing through your body. Try it's a practice that I've been doing. I've been trying for a while. Something that I do, I lock myself in my bathroom and my music on and I dance myself away. I sing, I dance, it's my alone time. It's that time where I have no distraction, nobody's gonna come and knock on the door. Like you just even if you have family, you have kids, just before your shower, just lock the door, bring your music in with you, play your favorite music, move your clothes and just dance and scream. It's you and the mirror. Just enjoy that time you're spending with yourself. No judgment, no that no nothing. Just sing and and dance and shake yourself. And if you need to turn the shower on so no one can hear you, forget about people. This is your alone time. Practice that. Use this, like sing it out, just enjoy it, just enjoy and just play your music or sing and dance and just enjoy your time. Clip your nails, your face, um, your face scrub on, your hair or or shave while you're shaving, turn your music on. But those are things that really energize you, boostes you, it makes you love because you're loving yourself, you're treating yourself, you're actually pampering your yourself. And on that very same subject, do things, the little thing for yourself a day. Take a moment, like cut your toe, your toenails, file your your toenails, like shave, put some makeup on, like do a face scrub, two minutes and lotion your body. Just do something for yourself, something that's gonna make you just a little bit of pampering, a little bit of loving your your yourself. This is so because when you're doing those things, you bring smiles to yourself, it makes you forget about the world, make you forget about the situation you're going through, make you forget about things that's happening to you. Because those things you can change, you can at the at the moment if you can fix it now, that means you fix it. It's uh a motor or something I always say to myself if you can't fix it now, let it go, fix it later, fix itself later, or write down reasons, ways you can fix it at the moment. If you can't fix it, just let it go. What point of worrying about something that you cannot fix right now, right now at the moment? Something that that I do spend time with your family, your friends. I always say, Cop your friend, have a chat. Hey, I'm just calling you, see how you doing, how was your day? Hey, let's go for a walk, let's go to a movie. There is this festival in town. Let's go. This let's go for this movie. Oh, you know, today's a nice day. Let's go for a walk in the forest, let's go for a little hike, let's call up a friend, family, do something exciting for your family. When's the last time you take a moment? Listen to your kid, take your kid out. I remember 2007 was I lived in Florida at the time and I was babysitting four kids. And something I would do, I would like every day I would take a different kid out, spend like 30 minutes with a different kid. Either if you like rollerblade, I'd go rollerblading. If you like swimming, I'll do swimming with you. Like, but every day I'll choose one of those kids that I was babysitting, and we would do something 30 minutes with them. I would do something with them, like my full attention, my full everything. We would talk, ask them questions about school, what they're doing, if they like what they're doing, and do that with your family, do that with your kids, do that with your friends, like just spend some time alone time with someone and just spend that focus on hearing them, listening to them. If you those with you can try that. Each kid, spend a moment with them, just 30 minutes, hang out, go for a walk. Some something. Those things bring smile to you, it energizes you, it makes you forget about your day. I was re I was listening to a podcast a couple of weeks ago. Remember what podcast exactly I was listening to. It was when was the last time spend time with a loved one and hear their story, hear what they have to say, and you forget about you, your life, and your story. Just listen to someone else. You don't give your comment, you don't say anything, but just listen to them. Spend time with your kids, spend time with someone, just listen to them and see how much makes you back at your life and yourself and think I thought I had it bad, mine not that bad. Oh, I thought things was bad with me, things not that bad with me. Re-evaluate your life yourself, but and just try those little things out. And all these things are part of self-love because self-love is as important as self-care, and you need to take care of yourself, you need to take care of the people around you. If you have flowers, like sometimes with your flowers, talk to your flowers, clean, taking a moment to listen to someone else apart from yourself, and this will make you look back at your life, yourself, boost you and energize you. Realize that you don't have it, that that those are just some signs, some some experience, some things that that I went through doing with myself. A couple of weeks ago, I organized my closet. I went through my closet, I just removed the stuff, the clothes that haven't wearing a long in a long time. And I did that. Went through the my head, my nightstand drawers, open it up and remove all the stuff and go for the stuff that I really I have in there, but I never use them. I I donated some of them that I'm never gonna use them. Those are little things you can just do. Just free up your mind, free up your space, declutter yourself, look into your your your space, your personal space, and all these things that are around you that just oh, I'm gonna wear it tomorrow, I'm gonna use it tomorrow, tomorrow, or when I lose weight. Let's focus on now. You have now appreciate you where you are now, not where you go in to be. Where you going to be, you don't know, all you have is now. If it doesn't fit you, and one thing I'm gonna tell people moves. Fashion is like the wind. Don't hold on to a fashion, don't hold on to a cloth, don't hold on to something and say, Oh, when I lose weight, I'm gonna wear it. Move on. By the time you lose that weight, even like that anymore. That's gonna be out of style, out of fashion. You may not like the color anymore. Declutter yourself, let it go. It goes very experiencing with people, and it's like holding on to things and said, This means so much to me. How many of those things you can hold on to that means so much to you? What brings joy, peace, excitement to you? Sometimes you just need to declutter yourself. You need more space, and the more you declutter yourself from other things you're holding on to, bringing back memories that doesn't bring joy to you. That was then put in your mind. Oh, I remember when I was in Mexico, how this amazing time I have. So when you're spending time alone, just breathing, remember being in Mexico, being in that spot, that place, bring you that joy and that peace. Bring yourself back there and give you this energy, re- and re-energize you. Let's declutter ourselves, not just from our surroundings with the stuff around you, with things someone gave you 20 years ago, wedding gifts you never open. Both the gifts you never even looked at it. Regift it. Give it to somebody else that's gonna be meaningful to them. Don't hold on to clothes that says when I lose weight or when I this, when I that, I did like that cloth. I bought it when I was there, there, there. Let it go. You're not there anymore. This is this is gone. Let it go. New things, new beginning. Go out, buy yourself something nice. Stick within your budget, yourself an ice cream, treat yourself, yourself and something. Something. Treat yourself yourself to something. Don't hold on to hard or what has happened. Like let these things go. Some something I've started a while, while back now, and that's writing my thoughts. Journal. It's something I've been doing for a long time. Journaling. Writing my thoughts. Be some time and write and write on the things you you've treated for. I'm a strong beel of gratitude. Things just sit spare things you're thankful for. Partner, your relationship, your kiss, your job, something someone did for you, something you did for yourself. You have a car, you have you you you you you're not in pain. Even if you are in pain, be gratitude, that you're alive. Gratitude for the things that for things in your life, not where you are, for your goals. This is a time you journal, you write your goals down. Where you wanna go, where you wanna be, dreams, your desire, your fa your fantasy. You write it down because it's very, very therapeutic. In it go, in it out, writing your your thoughts down. It helps you accomplish, get rid of things in your mind that's holding you down. Things that bring you joy, things that brings you excitement in your life, goals and how you plan on getting to your goals, how you plan on reaching there. Write down the mistakes you've made in your past. Things if you would yeah, just writing those things down. It's like detoxing your your yourself. I written a book sometime ago, like a very long time ago, and it was like I didn't really, I wasn't really into journaling yet. It says, write down the things of your past that you regret, the mistakes you made and you regret it. Write it down, come to the river, the ocean, and just it up, drop it in the ocean, or in the river and just or in a pond, in a lake, and just let it go. I practiced this a couple of times. Those are things you you can do. Your inner thoughts, the things you don't want to share with people, the the the things just writing it down. Some people are afraid to have a journal because people will see it. Um if you feel that way, read on a piece of paper, share it up and drop it in the ocean, drop it on a in in a running water water. But journaling is writing your thoughts down, writing your desire, writing down on pen and paper, you're letting it go, you're touching yourself, speaking to someone, therapy. It really, really does help. Read it, read, read, read, read up on on it. You're gonna see the the the the benefits, how important and how good it is. So so again, journal your thoughts, things you're very grateful for, your goals, your dreams, your desire, the things you want. Set dates, set limits to where you want your relationship, things, places in your ship you wanna improve, things your life you want to improve on. I want to go to the gym more often and then remind yourself hey, I want to go to the gym every day. But write write writing it down, it's somewhat make you accountable for yourself. At least you wrote it down, you can see it. Set dates when you journal, write a date and what you journal about. I have four journals. For you, it may sound strange. I have a journal for my dreams, for my goals, my dreams, where I want to be, my goals, I plan on getting there. I have a gratitude journal. Where I write things I'm so grateful for. A couple of weeks ago, I got up with my back was killing me, and I write in this journal, Lord. I'm so thankful for what is in this that I need to learn. I need to go back to my yoga morning. I realized I skipped a lot of yoga classes because of personal things that was coming up in my life. I realized that bad back drew me back to that. So I was gratitude for the bad back that drove me back to yoga to go into yoga class. Gratitude for like a vacation. I booked as gratitude for that. I wrote that down at least. As gratitude, I had the credit card. I have you know things to gratitude for things in your life. And I have a journal for that. I have a journal just for podcasting. Pacific journal where my podcast thoughts, where I a topic I want to talk about, write about throughout my day. If something happened to me, then I put I write it down in my journal. I have another journal. Personal things I that I want to change about myself. It's about me that I want to change, things on the bound that I want to work out, things about me that I want to improve, about me that I want to make better. So I write it down. I did it. I go back sometimes, read through my journal. Remember those days when I had a bad day. Um the thoughts were coming in, the negative thoughts were coming in. But I wrote it down and I said how I could change it. And so for me, it works for me. For me, I like the different journals, it gives me different perspectives. It's you could choose it, you could just have one and just date it and write everything in it, or do the paper thing, you write it down, your your thoughts, your dreams, and tear it up, put it in the ocean, in a running water, or just drop it in water. Whatever works for you, what whatever you think that's gonna work for for you. Try it out, give it your best. And guys, please, please, please, slowly, don't be hard on yourself. You miss a day. It's okay. Be thankful that you remember you said, continue where you where you left up. To be frustrated with yourself, but you miss a day or or you miss okay, you buy in and you slack off. It's okay. One step at a time. You need to crawl before you can walk. So I just want you guys to remember that. Take it slow, make it easy. We're all in this together, one day at a time, step by step. Take a break from social media, a break from Facebook. I remember doing that. I did that. I was off Facebook, social media for a month and a half. I think I did it. At that time, the time that I stopped, I downloaded all my podcasts, I downloaded everything that I would need. Um, just would listen to my podcast, to what I needed to listen to, and was no social media, nothing. And it's a month and a half, and with that time, I put it into developing new habits, changing things about me that I wanted to focus on. And that's where I developed the adding the gratitude journal came in. Not just a journal of my thoughts, of what I want to go, how I'm feeling, but I I added another journal about my gratitude journal. So I'm gratitude for I go back into it, having a rough day, just write things down. Just something I just want to share quickly with in my gratitude journal one day, I was having not a good day, not a really good day. I think it was the time I had my back pain in me. I went into my gratitude journal just to get my mind for pain, of what was going through me. I remember I was coming from St. Lucia. I credit cards was hacked in St. Lucia. So I didn't have a credit card. I had but I had my debit card flying back from St. Lucia into Toronto. I arrived in Toronto and I had to change planes. So my suitcase was taken off the plane, put on another airplane. But still with Air Canada. And when I got to check in to come to Ottawa from Toronto, the agent told me I need to book, I need to pay for my suitcase. I went, Lady, you serious? It's a connecting flight, same airline. Because I had to go through immigration in Toronto, I had to get my suitcase out, book back in, to the later flight from all from Toronto to Ottawa. I said it's$30. And I was like, Here's my debit card. She said, Oh, we don't do debit card, we do credit card. And I went, My credit card was out in St. Lucia, so it doesn't work. And she said, Well, two dollars. And I looked at her and and I said, I don't have. And I said, Who would I be because when I did travel to St. Lucia through Toronto again, I didn't have to twice. Why am we doing that? I'm sitting there, I don't have thirty thirty, I don't have a credit card, I don't have thirty dollars to give her. She's telling me down the aisle, wherever there's an ATM machine, and calling my flight to auto. And that was like 11 p.m. in sitting there, just standing in front of her, lost, embarrassed. Like, what a situation I'm in, what a mess I'm in. Came up to her and tell her something, and she said, give me one minute, I will be back to left the minutes after another agent came and said, You fly into Ottawa, connecting flight from St. Lucia. I said, Yes. She said, How many pieces do you have? I said, two. She said, just put them on the belt. Well, she just stick um that tag on on it. She said, You they're about to close, so you better run. Guys, the smile, the relief, those are little things that I always remember when things are rough my life. I go back and a gratitude journal is so, so, so important. But you're having a rough day, you just remember at that time, that place where you were, where a miracle happened for you. Something amazing happened at the time. Like, so going back, write that journal down and go back into it. It's you smile and something talking about it now. I just smile, just a relief. That's not even half of it. When I got because I was so late when I got to the flight to Ottawa, they put me in first class. I sat in first class and I'm so like smiling, gratitude, wow, sweating, relief, all of these things. And I learned that next time I'm traveling, I'm go, I'm having going with credit card or a backup with some extra cash. I learned that on that vacation. Always have backup of extra cash, second credit card. It was a bad experience losing the card. So much I've I I learned from this. And so I just I just wanted to share this with you guys. And again, journal, journal, attitude, channel, or things with gratitude for the kids, the family, your friends, little things in your life. You are having a someone did something for you. So these are just some some self-love things that I that I'm I've I've been using for for myself. And I'm just gonna do a quick recap of everything. Stop, smell the flower, take a walk. If your family, your friends, spend some time with yourself, read a book, just do something that make that brings a smile to to yourself, give yourself permission to say no, plan an escape, plan a little getaway trip, change your routine, your your your drive, your trip home, and from work, a break from TV, from social media, um, read a book, exercise, lock yourself in the bathroom, turn on your music and sing and dance and forget about the world. Remind yourself of your worth. And and you could do this by just um leaving notes to remind yourself how important how sweet and how special you are out for yourself, for your family, for for for your friend. Journal, have journal and be gratitude. So I just wanna to just some stuff, some things that I use, some things that I spend uh with myself, and I just want to leave this with you. I want to live live this with you guys. So this is just things that I try, things I work on, cast my podcast is about loving yourself, loving yourself, smiling, and being there for for yourself. This is all I have for today, guys, and I just want to say thank you. And again, I'm just gonna leave you as I leave you every day. Love yourself, find yourself, and something every day that makes you happy. Stay true to your yourself, and if you cannot love yourself, like someone else to love you. And remember, I could be rich at Ann Malcolm on Facebook, Instagram, Daniel Malcolm50. Again, till next time, love you. Just remember you're special, you are enough, you're amazing. This message reaches you. Find healing, you find peace, share it with someone, link up with someone, or just send me a review. I just wanna say thank you. I appreciate you, appreciate you, love you, love you, love you until next time.